Why is it that it’s the year 2012 and yet sometimes I feel like I’ve been transported back to the mid-90’s? It’s not the latest fashion trends. It’s definitely not the music. And it’s not even the fact that today I spotted at least 3 women (4, if you include me) at the grocery store sporting “The Rachel.”
After careful observation, I have concluded that mommyhood is basically high school all over again. You know, the time in your life when you’re desperately searching to find out who you are and where you most fit in.
In high school, we had the jocks, preps, punks, popular, dramas, nerds, grunge (yes, grunge).
In mommyhood, we have the working moms, stay-at-home moms, soccer moms, helicopter moms, tiger moms, crunchy moms, yoga moms, yada yada yada. And just like in high school where I floated from clique to clique never really cementing myself into one particular group- motherhood has been a similar experience for me. From the outside, most people would probably say I am more of a crunchy-granola-yoga mom because I choose organic foods, I love to exercise and do yoga, and I try to implement an all around healthy and green lifestyle for my family. But to me, I am just a mish mosh of mom types that never really fit into a mold pre- or post kids:
- I breast-fed both my children well into toddlerhood, but used disposable diapers.
- I co-slept initially, but kicked them out as soon as I possibly could.
- I wore my babies for about 30 seconds, then opted for a stroller.
- I made my own baby food (once or twice), then busted out the Earth’s Best.
- I put my kids in time-out and yell when I’m mad.
- I get tired, cranky, irritated- and am not afraid to admit it.
- I say “no” to my kids, then change my mind so they will stop nagging me.
- I make mistakes, but try my hardest to learn from them.
- Potty training is/was a pain in the ass.
In my experience with motherhood, I think it’s safe to say that versatility is key. Decide what works for you and your family and use it. Keep an open mind and be willing to change and adapt. Take our culture’s obsession with fitting moms into a particular group or category with a grain of salt. The bottom line: We’re moms leading different [crazy] lives and we need all the support we can get to feel confident in our parenting choices. You might be surprised to find the best mom friends you meet could be the ones that do the exact opposite of you.
ps. Meet me in the cafeteria, I saved you a seat.